Are you a perfectionist? It’s a good question to ask ourselves on occasion.
What is a perfectionist? In psychology, perfectionists are individuals who possess an excessive drive for flawlessness. They set extremely high performance standards for themselves and are unreasonably critical of themselves when they don’t meet their standards. They also tend to measure their self-worth by productivity and are susceptible to depression when they “don’t produce.”
I wrote a poem about perfectionism in my book, When the Blue Heron Flies. Let me share that poem with you here and then offer a few questions for your personal reflection:
Perfectionism is a cruel taskmaster.
Scant is her reward for your onerous labors.
She bestows no peace, no joy, no closure.
She never says, “Well done! Good job! Take a rest!”
Instead all she ever says is, “More! More! More!”
Even if you meet her demands
in a given area of your life,
she quickly finds fault with all the rest of you
and persists in her relentless nagging.
Why strain yourself for her unwinnable approval?
Far better to expend yourself on befriending one of these:
Humility, Patience, Loose Ends.
Do you ever get caught up in the pursuit of perfectionism? If so, why? If not, why not?
The poem suggests befriending one of these: humility, patience, loose ends. Have you befriended any of these? How do these prevent us from being caught up in perfectionism?
Our song today is “Trust in You” by Lauren Daigle. In our quest to curb perfectionism, we must remember that ultimately our trust is not in our talents, power, cleverness, or even goodness. Our trust is in God.
Is there anything on this topic that you would like to share with us? We enjoy hearing from you!